"Not everyone has a right to speak into your life. You are certain to get the
worst of the bargain when you exchange ideas with the wrong
person. Don't follow anyone who's not going anywhere."
I have always been observant of people around me, especially those whom I have been working with, and have worked with, while all the while being conscious and cautious of how I deal with them. If you are in a "touch" and hospitality profession like massage therapy you just have to. Because there will come times that they can and will get a little too close and personal to you. In those times, if there is something uncommon and infrequent in all those places with all those people, it's the sincere and kind-hearted.
As a matter of fact there are days that disagreement outnumbers cooperation! Blame and gossip get thrown around and only a few takes responsibility on instances that it needed be. I don't wonder anymore why the business owners and managers I have worked for seemed to have headaches all the time! I am not perfect, nor am I an innocent saint, but I am one less pain for my employer, that I can say, for a lot more often than not I spend majority of my time with my clients inside my treatment room! I just wished that this particular coworker we have will quit being a pain in our [bleeeeps] !!
Below is a better take of my not-so-desirable experience with a coworker as written by Steven Kucsma, President and Executive Editor of Northern Physique Media Group. I could not agree with him more!
- Leo Feraer-Oporto
Ponder How You Live...
The less you associate with some people, the more your life will improve. Anytime you tolerate mediocrity in others, it increases your mediocrity. An important attribute in successful people is their impatience with negative thinking and negative acting people. Some of your friends will not want you to go on. They will want you to stay where they are. Friends that don't help you climb will want you to crawl. Your friends will stretch your vision or choke your dreams. Those that don't increase you will eventually decrease you.
Consider this: never receive counsel from unproductive people. Never discuss your problem with someone incapable of contributing to the solution, because those who never succeed themselves are always the first to tell you how. Not everyone has a right to speak into your life. You are certain to get the worst of the bargain when you exchange ideas with the wrong person. Don't follow anyone who's not going anywhere. With some people you spend an evening. With others you invest it. Be careful where you stop to inquire for directions along the road of life. Wise is the person who fortifies his life with the right friendship. If you run with wolves, you will learn how to howl. But if you associate with eagles, you will learn how to soar to great heights. A mirror reflects a man's face, but what he is really like is shown by the kind of friends he chooses. The simple but true fact of life is that you become like those with whom you closely associate.
Be not mistaken. This is applicable to family as well as friends. Yes...do love, appreciate and be thankful for your family, for they will always be your family no matter what. Just know that they are human first though they are family to you they may be a friend to someone else and will fit somewhere in the criteria above. In Prosperity Our Friends Know Us. In Adversity We Know Our Friends. Never make someone a priority when you are only an option to them. If you are going to achieve excellence in big things, you have to develop the habit in little matters. Excellence is not an exception, it is a prevailing attitude.
- Steven Kucsma
Massage therapy is such a compassionate profession, I think that compassion should and can extend far beyond our clients - towards coworkers and bosses as well! I do understand my dear fellow therapists that we are in a quite stressful job, but would it really be that difficult to be kind? Well, if what has been stressing you out is not being booked, and you have been spending a lot more time in the therapist lounge than with a client, then perhaps you just might have much to do about nothing... Good luck to you!
- Leo Feraer-Oporto